I’m not sure where to start with this post, because I could write enough to fill a novel. The short version is the a 16yo girl that I am very close to is unemployed, pregnant, and without family supportand I’m reaching out to see if anyone would be interested in helping me help her.
This sweet girl (I call her my 4th child) came into our lives when she was 13. She rode the bus with my daughter in middle school, spending afternnons and evenings at our house. When she started sleeping over, I felt like I should introduce myself to her mom so that Mom knew where she was, and that she was safe. 4th Child was very much against this idea, but I’m persistent. I went with the girls to her home around noon on a Saturday. Mom was in bed, and when 4th Child woke her up, she yelled and cursed, and sounded obviously intoxicated. She screamed at 4th Child to “Get the h*** out and leave her alone.” The house was a mess and there were 4 other children ranging in age from 8 to 14 in the house. They all became regulars at my house for dinner, and whenever Mom and her boyfriend of the week’s fights became violent.
After about a year, mom moved to avoid an impending CPS case, and the kids were scattered between relatives. My 4th Child ended up with an aunt in a city about 2 1/2 hours away. Despite being a consistent straight-A student, the last grade that she completed was 7th because in exchange for room and board, she was expected to care for the aunt’s children while the aunt worked during the day and partied at night.
After about a year away, she asked if she could come visit. So we picked her up and brought her back home. After 3 months, I convinced her mom to come with me to the school board so that she could enroll in school here, but our arrangement only lasted a few more months because, while she was very sweet and polite at home, she wasn’t used to having rules and started sneaking out and getting into trouble. She the went to a grandmother in another state, then another aunt, and then we got her back (almost a year later) but the sneaking out continued. She was barely 16 when she left us for good, but has always stayed in touch.
While away, she asked me for basic guidance about school and how to get a job. She figured it all out on her own and got her GED, her ID card, a job, and was about to enroll in college when she met a guy and got pregnant.
They are currently living a little over an hour away with his mom. He recently lost his job, and she is very visibly pregnant and having a hard time finding work. She is a very proud girl, and it has taken a lotof convincing to get her to let me buy her a few sets of maternity clothes to wear to her Dr.'s appointments, but she’s slowly accepting my help. She’s is extremely worried that she won’t have the things that she needs when the baby gets here though.
I had the idea to post here when looking through my reborn clothing. I’m not asking anyone to buy anything, but if you happen to have any baby boy items that you aren’t going to use, I would love to pass them along to this sweet girl who has faced so many challenges. Please PM me if you’d like to help.